Have you ever wondered why is it so difficult for us to enjoy the moment and why is it becoming more and more difficult to focus on one thing at a time, no matter how simple the task might be. It seems like with our overstimulated daily routines and busy schedules we are forgetting how to feel things more intensively and enjoy small details at a slowdown pace. And this specifically affects a lot of people in relation to their sexual lives, as it is extremely difficult to truly enjoy any sensual experience, with yourself or with a partner, if your mind constantly is active, stressed or thinking about daily chores. So how do we use the magic properties of sensuality to actually help ourselves to relax and to feel things more intensively?
First let's look at what sensuality actually is, let's not confuse it with sexuality, as sensuality mostly refers to the way we find mental, physical and spiritual satisfaction of pleasure through our senses. So the key to magnified sensuality that will lead to intensified pleasure and ability to enjoy things in an intensively amplified spectrum would be to learn how to embrace and avail all of our five senses to the most intensified level.
By unifying touch, taste, smell, sound and sight, we can achieve an intensified feeling and greater sensual experience that will fully allow us to feel and enjoy the moment. Incorporating all five senses doesn't only make our sensual experiences better, but the skill to fully utilise and experience all of our five senses makes a lot of activities better, lets for example even take writing. Stories, where characters are experiencing all five senses feel more powerful and if we can feel the smells that they are experiencing and imagine the taste they are feeling, we connect with those characters and stories on a much deeper level.
So what can we do to increase and emulsify our senses, improve our love life and experience our moments more intensively?
First we can start with taking some moments to reconnect with ourselves and identify which senses we have detached from the most and put efforts into reawaken those neglected feelings.
For some it might be as simple as sight. What details do you notice when you look closely? In yourself, in your partner, in your surroundings? When it comes to sensual experiences, what light do you feel more relaxed in, does your mood change depending on the colour of the lights in the room or the dimness of the light? It all might seem like small things, but most of the time we completely overlook those.
Same goes with the rest of the senses. What about smell? Do we ever realise how interesting smells are? For example, due to olfactory fatigue, our brains normally only processes smells for a couple of brief moments and our minds get used to it after a prolonged exposure. Our bodies become desensitized to stimuli to prevent the overloading of the nervous system. For example, when we enter a perfume store, we can strongly smell it at the beginning, but as we are there for a couple of moments, the sense of smell fades as we get used to it. But that doesn't mean that smells don't affect how we feel, even when we get used to them. So for example if you are having a romantic time with your partner and light the candles up with natural relaxing oils, those scents will do what they are supposed to do and relax your nervous system. But also knowing that our brains only process smells for a short amount of time can really make us cherish those moments, thus learning to be present in the moment more.
Touch is extremely interesting and is the first sense that we experience and it can even affect how we perceive someone else. There are few experiments, where experiences of physical warmth would increase feelings of interpersonal warmth, without the person's awareness of this influence. In this one study, for example, participants who briefly held a cup of hot coffee judged a person as having a “warmer” personality. So it is apparent that touch is incredibly important and we should practise more to experience things deeper through the art of touch.
Now let's dive into the experience of taste. That first kiss being our first taste of our partner,
Sound is truly remarkable when it comes to sensuality. Sounds have the power to inspire all sorts of sensual pleasure, and there is even a term for that called auralism. It can be anything from focusing on your partners moans, or even simply finding the rhythm in breathing or focusing on really listening to the pulse of the heartbeat. Or what about simply listening to the song that makes you feel the most relaxed and loose yourself a little.
So how can we utilize our senses to enhance our sensual experience, whether with ourselves or with a partner?
Well, experiment!
Our sensories are linked to memories, so why not use something that triggers sensual, pleasant memories in you? You could use something already linked to a happy memory. Perhaps a scent of a specific perfume or body lotion triggers that sensual feeling in you, or flavours of a specific cocktail or a snack brings back memories of your first date, so you utilise it for enchanted taste, smell and touch sensations. Or what about those songs that send those light magnetic impulses down the surface of your skin, raising goosebumps and pleasant shivers? And of course, what about glistening body oils that will make your skin glisten with reflections and feel sensational. What about candle smells, filled with oils designed to increase sensuality and experimenting with natural aphrodisiacs for that extra boost of sensuality?
Turn harnessing your sensuality into a fun and memorable experience, experiment and uncover what truly magical encounter it can be.
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